Showing posts with label Relationship. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Relationship. Show all posts

Why We Homeschool – A Reminder of Our Purpose and Calling


There are days when we, as homeschoolers, wonder if we are doing the right thing.  We each have a time when we re-evaluate this choice for any number of reasons.  Sometimes it’s just a hard day.  Sometimes it is a hard season in life.  I want to encourage you in this journey.

We do this because we love our children more than anyone else does and even though they push us, that “pushing” results in growth in us.  We grow in patience, kindness, meekness (strength under control – God’s control), mercy, forgiveness, and the ability to confess our failures and shortcomings as examples to our children when we do not exhibit these fruits.
Our children are God’s instruments to help us grow in knowledge, understanding and love for Him.  This is just what we do for our children.  Just as we "push" (challenge) them to try new things, not give up on hard things, be diligent, thorough, work on communication skills, learn life skills, do jobs completely rather than half-way, integrity, honesty, compassion - so much more than reading, 'riting, and 'rithmetic.
We are creating people who will be kingdom people even as we strive for that goal ourselves each day. We fail, we confess, God picks us up, dusts us off - and sometimes dusts our pants because we need it, and loves us - and through watching us, our children learn these things.
It's not how many times they fail, or we fail, it's how many times we reach out to God for help and knowing we have a faithful, loving, Heavenly Father to help guide them and us to be the people he has in mind for us to be.
I'm sharing this as a print-out that you can put on your refrigerator, above your desk, or wherever you need this  to remind you - and for me to remind myself - of our higher purpose and calling in this adventure.  God bless you today and always! - Tammy

Getting Out of Debt 1: Family Finance


Family Finance
If you, like me, are the keeper of the budget, you may know just how challenging it is to get your spouse involved in making the budget and working together. If you cannot stand making budgets and they bore you out of your skull, then your personality matches my husband's. He hates it, also.
I worked with the Crown Financial Ministries program that started with Larry Burkett. I really liked the program, but I could not engage my husband or teenage / young adult son in the matter. It made working on a family budget really challenging.
Enter, Dave Ramsey. I had wanted to take the class, but in our community, the church that offered it offered it on a night we were not available. Fortunately, one of my dear friends and her husband took the course. She offered it to her friends in and outside of her church. My husband, son, and I took the course. The first DVD of the program (this is the just older program, not the newest 2012 version) got my husband and son's attention. YEA!
Is he teaching anything different from Crown Financial Ministries? No, not really. The only “big” difference is the order in which Dave Ramsey recommends paying off debt. What Dave Ramsey does well is showmanship. This is what my husband and son needed. He gave them a reason to be interested in making a budget. He gave them a reason to save, especially showing the numbers for a young man starting to save $2000 per year at age 20 versus waiting until age 26 to do the same. Lucky Charms got that message. The only downside is that Lucky Charms is rather impulsive still and wants things “now” rather than saving, so he leans toward wanting to get a loan, though fortunately, when he does, it tends to be short-term loans. He is contemplating consequences and costs more thoroughly, though.
If you and your spouse, if you are married, (or fiancĂ©e / financĂ© if  engaged) have not yet taken this course, I highly recommend taking it. It may take time to get the program to work for your family with ups and downs in family financial circumstances, but keep working at it. You will be blessed and you will see those debts dwindle down and your capacity for providing for your needs and wants – and long-term future – increase.
What has been your most successful method for getting your family on a budget? Who inspires you?

Passionate Mama


I am passionate about my love of Jesus Christ and I am passionate about my family. When I thought about this title and writing about what I am passionate about, I asked my daughters (without sharing this title first), what they think I love the most. The answers were an emphatic, “ME!” and “Jesus!” I figured I had the title right.
I am a wife, a step-mother to two young men (though I simply consider myself their mother the majority of the time), and mother to two young girls. The aside may bother some, but there is a reason behind that aside and it is not a liberty taken lightly, but one earned through earnest prayers, much time, lots of love, counsel, guidance, concern, and worry. God has helped me guide their steps with loving church families and their grandparents. God has also shown me when it was time for me to step back and let him intervene and given me peace when He did so.
We are blessed with a lovely, Christian daughter-in-law and two beautiful grandchildren.
I began homeschooling our younger son in 2004 and have homeschooled since that time. (He did graduate from a public school with our permission. Our daughters will be graduating from homeschool when the time comes.)
Getting here has been a long journey. I have worked in the corporate world. I have had a great deal of experiences that helped me grow and learn who I really am and what matters most to me. What matters most is family – and friends who you love like family.
I have a wonderful husband with a completely different personality from mine. I am a high-strung Type A personality. He is a relaxed, easy-going Type B personality. My dad thought us getting married might help me loosen up a little.
I generally call hubby a duck – problems just roll off his back. I, on the other hand, am not a duck. Over the years of having this discussion with him, I finally came to the conclusion that God made him a duck – and that is fine, but God did not make me a duck – and both of us must simply accept that fact. I may look at him and ask, in an exasperated tone, “How can that NOT bother you?” To which he simply replies, “It just doesn't. I don't let it get to me.” On the other hand, he will look at me and ask, “Why are you letting that bother you?” I respond with, “It just does and I have to work through it.”
In life, I figure that God gives us lessons to learn. I learn by trials, challenges, and experiences. I even learn by the way I work through those trials and challenges. I have learned, for example, that it is perfectly okay to give myself permission to feel however I feel – hurt, angry, frail, lost, confused – those things that do not seem to be correct to feel sometimes. I used to hold the feelings inside until I would have a physiological issue that required me to address them. I don't do that any longer. I learned that God gave us feelings to feel what is going on around us. That is what makes me passionate and concerned and involved in this world around me.
I learned, through experience, just how valuable family is. Family is so precious. No amount of money can replace family. You can always make more money, but once time is spent, you can never get it back.
The purpose of this blog is to journey through some of these lessons I've learned and share some of these with others. I wish to be an encourager of other Christian moms in their stages of motherhood through stories, prayers, and fun ideas.
I would love your comments, thoughts, and encouragement for myself and one another. I will try to respond to requests and questions in a timely manner to the best of my ability.
This blog will be monitored. Differences of opinion with statements of why one has a different opinion are welcome. Asking for clarification is appreciated. Agreeing to disagree on a point is perfectly valid. Making assertions without having walked in someone else's shoes or getting all the details is cautioned. Unkind comments, foul language, or belittling someone else will not be tolerated.